I mentioned on our Instagram a couple of days ago I was putting the final touches on a post about who Kevin & I have chosen as our wedding photographers. And while that post is coming, in light of the ever escalating current events, and after all that has happened in Charlottesville, I felt the need to pause the wedding talk and address these very real issues. We'll be back to our "regularly scheduled programming" soon because I do honestly believe that love and happiness are ultimately what will change the world, but first, I need you, my blog friends, to know a few things:
I believe your legacy is important and your story deserves to be told. No matter what country you were born in. No matter the color of your skin, your age, or who you choose to love (or the myriad of other ways we identify ourselves in a census).
I believe tradition, no matter the religion, is beautiful.
I believe diversity makes our communities better.
I believe that you can define "family" however you like. Chosen, biological, blended or furry, the true definition of family, to me, is a group of people who love you no matter what and who you love just as fiercely back.
I believe in learning from people who aren't like me. I believe in learning the man's name who sits outside and asks for money. Because I'm just as human as he is.
Most of all, I believe love is love. And it's really as simple as that.
Here's the hard part: I believe that while I sit here angry and shocked and saddened by the recent events, those that marched the streets of Charlottesville with hate pouring from their mouths are still humans, just like you and I. While I want to demonize them for their actions, they are still men and women, mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers and cousins. And remembering that equal humanity will be the hardest part of all as we try to move forward in making this world a more loving, compassionate, respectful and understanding place to share together.
As I continue to talk about joyous days, bridesmaid dress colors, and the smell of flowers, it's not done with ignorance to the realities of the world. Quite the contrary. It is done with a deep down belief that focusing on love, beauty and what makes each of us good is currently my best way to bring change to the world. On some level, I've always known this and I think that's why there was a natural transition from working in the world of non-profits to photographing weddings, but I've never heard it so elegantly explained as this quote my friend shared by Will Durant recently:
"Civilization is a stream with banks. The stream is sometimes filled with blood from people killing, stealing, shouting and doing the things historians usually record,
while on the banks, unnoticed, people build homes, make love, raise children, sing songs, write poetry and even whittle statues."
I am here for the people on the banks, who witness these shocking events and choose love anyway. Those are the people who will change the world and those are the stories that deserve to be written into history.